Yes, it has been a long while. Many apologies for that. Since I last posted, my weight has gone up 20 pounds. Good news though, more than a year at the job. Started jogging again - man it is cold. Got the thumbs up from the eye doctor, my maculla is 100 percent normal, got to keep sugar in control, so the blood vessels in the eye can heal. The scintilating vision thing has disappered. My reaction to my wife leaving me, really did me in. Well, that's past, now just to stay strong.
ADHAD, well, after a long time on Adderal, I'm going off of it. I have. It wasn't providing enough of a benefit, and it just made me STOOOOOOPID.
What I mean is that, my thoughts were more focused, but they were also so slow, that I couldn't accomplish anything. What this means. The mediation didn't magically "fix" my issues with organization. It wasn't like the movie "Limitless" - G-d how sometimes I wish there was a pill that just did that. No, there isn't, and the medication wasn't doing what I had hoped. If I "spin out of control" I'll go back on that med, or try something new, but. . .
Now, as actually it always was, it is up to me. I may get distracted, but I've learned to bring myself back. I've learned to start planning in advance. Work backwards, so to speak. If want this to happen, then I need to have that happen before, and before, and etc. Yeah, sure I can adapt on the fly, and fix most things, but that is a bonus, and too exhausting to live my life like that. I did it for years, and now I've built habits to counteract them. Heck I'm writing a budget - I love building spreadsheets, not so much fun doing the data entry, but still. Making myself a budget. Always talked about it, but never did it. Good for me, pay attention to life.
The girls, this was an excellent week, NO yelling or fights. Well, not from me, Abigail still gets angry. It's hard, I've realized how much like me she is, in her temperment and her thought process. I don't want to be an anger role model for her, so that's it. She yelled at me both this morning, and I did use a stern voice, but also a soft and loving when she calmed down. Wehn my wife and I were together, I once said that being a husband was the toughest job I had, and being a father the most important. I think she was upset that the order wasn't reversed. I suppose that the truth is that being a dad is the hardest and most important job.
I want Abigail to learn to express disappointment and upset without yelling and screaming, and Sadie without whinning (I'm not sure which is worse.) So I work very hard with Abigail, slowly, slowly, maybe she is getting it. We will see, I just don't want her to have that ingrained in her, she needs to be able to express herself, in the moment, without screaming all the time. She insisted on making soup the other day, in the microwave. She also wanted to help cook the steaks, she tries so hard, and I love her so. Learning/reading still a problem. It isn't that she can't do it, she is right where she is expected. She just gets frustrated, because she has to work at it so hard. It seems so easy for me and her sister. I've had to explain to Abigail that I couldn't read until I was in third grade (true actually - don't lie to children), I get frustrated when she "forgets" what she just did, and then she senses it, so something else to work on, encouraging without showing frustration. So much to do as a parent.
Did I mention that the biggest problem as a parent is that our children think of us a Perfect G-d like beings, and we aren't. So in the end, we are doomed to disappoint our children. I praise my kids appropriately (Like nuts) when they do things well, and when they struggle, I tell them the story of the butterfly, and tell them it is okay to struggle. I never really had to struggle with school work, but then it came too easy, and then I didn't work, and by the end of the semester, I went from top of the class to bottom. The struggle builds strength, and I never learned that strength as a child. Not my parents fault, but I want my children to have it. Sadie shows it, she is able to stick with, and plow through what doesn't come easy (with some encouragement), and I work with Abigail so she can develop it. If that is the only thing I can do for my children, then that would be good.
Sadie is now informing me she is afraid of making mistakes, because the third grade exams are coming up. I told her, that she can make mistakes, it is how you learn, and it is fine, and not to worry about the third grade exams, until she is in third grade. If any educators are out there - The way GRADES are used is terrible, and crushing to the students, and are all about grading the teachers, and justifying putting money in someone's pocket. Kids love to learn, and adults don't. when I taught, the best parts of the job was encouraging my students, and learning from my students. Grading them, was the worst, it turned their learning into a grade chase, where the grade was the goal, and not facility with the material.
On the one hand, I wish life was always easy for my children, that they never had to grow up, and they never had to choose, or face disappointment or upset. However, they need to grow up strong and determined, and self reliant. I just want them to grow up happy, and unburdened by their parents issues.
Food, stay off of carbs and sodas. Carbs is harder, but Soda, I'm giving it up, so hard, so so hard. Cherry Coke Zero, best soda I ever had, diet or otherwise. BUT I must stay away. I promised myself, promised my girls. I suppose that is enough for today. It is hard being ADHD, and Diabetic, and some days I just want to give up, but I love my daughters so much, they are worth the struggle.
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Saturday, January 18, 2014
Sunday, September 1, 2013
Routine
As I wrote it was a tough year. August of 2012, my marriage crumbled away to nothing, I had so much stress, more than I had ever had before. Big and hard and in my face every minute of the day. I had to fight so hard for my kids, it was as if suddenly the world, which I have always battled with on a low level, was now a thousand worlds strong, attacking me, trying to kill me instantly. I fought, I won - enough, barely, 50/50 joint custody, almost equal time split with the kids, but it all took its toll on me. In August I lost control of my diabetes and the ADHD continued to plague me. By March 2013 I was in really bad shape physically. Constantly sick, barely able to function, in a full time job for the first time in nearly a decade. I went to a new doctor, my blood sugar over three hundred, and the doctor said - time for insulin.
Enough. I got back into my routine. Started jogging, but that doesn't help. Great for my pulse and blood pressure, but doesn't really handle my diabetes. For me it's diet. That and I suppose the medication. In March, A1C at 11, three months later A1C at 5.9 and the doctor stops insisting on me taking insulin injections. Shows you what a 1630 calorie a day diet can do. More importantly as I found out, the routine becomes all important.
I hate routine, just can't stand it. My whole life I have fought against it, and everything about it. You see I'm terrified of being trapped. I freelanced for years, always afraid of what would happen if I had to skip out on a job for an emergency. It became a great excuse, no I'm not available for family planning, because what if a job shows up? Ugggghhhhh. How much of that is ADHD, I'm not sure. What if a really good job came along that I wanted to take, well I couldn't if I had a full time job. The funny thing is, that once in a while that - excuse me for a moment.
Abigail just had a nightmare, she was asleep and screaming, I told her I was here, and asked if she had a nightmare - she said "not allowed" I told her of course she's allowed. She was still asleep through this. We had a BBQ/Grilling thing, and one of Sadie's friends stayed late and I think Abigail felt a little excluded by the two of them. It is so hard being the little sister.
She's settled down now, a kiss goodnight to her forehead.
So about work, funny thing was, with always wanting to be free to take a better job, when they came along, I just never did. I couldn't walk off the job I had promised to do, even though the other job was so much better. A mistake on my part I suppose, the story of my career in the film business, always making the wrong choices.
And back to routine. In March, I had a resting heart rate in the low 100s, my A1C was 11, which is blood sugar levels so terrible I was constantly sick, missing work, sleeping all the time trying to recover, peeing ten times a day, I had nausea, migraines, and ear infections, and my high blood sugar ripped the hell out of my eyes. Three months later I had a resting pulse rate in the 60s, A1C of 5.9 , and I stopped being sick.
Of course then the summer hit, and my routine has become lost again. I eat late, and bad, and too much, taking my pills becomes a struggle, where once I had it down cold. School is on the horizon for my daughters again. So that will help with the routine. Establish a new one, because the school plans are slightly different this year. There is something else about routine that I learned, as a father, a morning routine is absolutely essential. Night routines, they can vary a bit, but in the morning we had to catch the bus at a certain time (and we missed only one, and that was to take Sadie to the doctor one morning.) So catching the bus at a certain time means out the door at a certain time, which means dressed and etc. etc. etc. So it is get the girls up by a certain time, and smooth sailing. Wake them up 5 minutes later, disaster, and rushing and stress.
For me, by myself, if I over sleep, not really an issue, I adapt, change, adjust. However after the first year of being by myself and having to get my kids off to school in the morning when they were with me I learned a few things.
1. I can't wait until I can send them with sandwiches or they start eating the school lunch. They always want soup, or something hot, which means I can't make their lunch the night before, as I can with mine, that eats into my time.
2. I need to be dressed for work before I wake them up, or I'm going to be rushing to get dressed.
3. There are 5 things my children can handle in the morning for a stress free morning, Get up, eat breakfast, get dressed, brush teeth and hair, put on shoes. Add ANYTHING else and problems. So clothes must be picked out the night before. Any paperwork signed the night before, because there is a schedule, we have to meet. I started to realize, add a sixth item to the morning, and it became rocky and stressful. Keep it to those 5 things, and smooth sailing.
I hate routine, well at least I used to. I'm not a slave to it now, we can vary it, at night or during the day. Plans can become flexible, hey if we are out having fun, no reason to leave one place just to go somewhere else because that's the schedule. When we have time, the schedule can change, but when we don'†, like mornings getting to school. Varying the routine just plays havoc, so build a routine and don't change it. I'm not single anymore, so what I do affects others. I no longer have a partner; someone I help out when they need a hand, or someone to help me if I need a hand. So I'm alone here, and as a dad, in the morning a solid routine just makes all the difference.
As a diabetic, and as someone with ADHD, having a routine to follow may just save my life. For my eating habits, for my exercise, for taking my medicine. When I stop following the routine, it all goes out of whack, and it isn't good. So I start again tomorrow, Sunday, counting my calories, even though it might make more sense to wait until Monday, I start on Sunday, food journaling, I use the My fitness Pal app on my phone. And I start testing my blood sugar twice a day again, every day, and no recriminations. Testing the blood sugar is key for me, because it keeps me focused on my health, and even when I have great readings, in the 70s, once in a while there is a high one, and I have to think on what I am doing, and why that happened.
In case you don't know what the numbers mean, when you test your sugar on a daily basis the "Normal" score is 120 - above that, not good, below that is better. I'll go into detail on that in another post, because you can have problems if your sugar goes too low. The A1C number is different and is an average of your levels over the past three months, as opposed to the daily checking of your blood sugar.
As for ADHD, I've started keeping a timer on myself at work, how long it takes to do this task, or to do that one. I can identify my weaknesses, and when I am just letting the work get away from me, and when I need to stay focused and finish, because I can't spend unlimited time on one thing. I'm more used to something taking as long as it takes, but really I need it to take how long I plan on it taking.It doesn't always, but it is better to set a goal for how long it will take, rather then just let it take as long as it takes. It's made a difference just in the past three weeks since I started using the timer. My most productive month at this job yet.
Sorry, this post is a little meandering, but it is three in the morning, the only time I have to write for the next few days, and tomorrow, I can actually sleep late, nowhere to be with the kids until the late afternoon/evening. Sort of the end of summer, and the free form days.
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Enough. I got back into my routine. Started jogging, but that doesn't help. Great for my pulse and blood pressure, but doesn't really handle my diabetes. For me it's diet. That and I suppose the medication. In March, A1C at 11, three months later A1C at 5.9 and the doctor stops insisting on me taking insulin injections. Shows you what a 1630 calorie a day diet can do. More importantly as I found out, the routine becomes all important.
I hate routine, just can't stand it. My whole life I have fought against it, and everything about it. You see I'm terrified of being trapped. I freelanced for years, always afraid of what would happen if I had to skip out on a job for an emergency. It became a great excuse, no I'm not available for family planning, because what if a job shows up? Ugggghhhhh. How much of that is ADHD, I'm not sure. What if a really good job came along that I wanted to take, well I couldn't if I had a full time job. The funny thing is, that once in a while that - excuse me for a moment.
Abigail just had a nightmare, she was asleep and screaming, I told her I was here, and asked if she had a nightmare - she said "not allowed" I told her of course she's allowed. She was still asleep through this. We had a BBQ/Grilling thing, and one of Sadie's friends stayed late and I think Abigail felt a little excluded by the two of them. It is so hard being the little sister.
She's settled down now, a kiss goodnight to her forehead.
So about work, funny thing was, with always wanting to be free to take a better job, when they came along, I just never did. I couldn't walk off the job I had promised to do, even though the other job was so much better. A mistake on my part I suppose, the story of my career in the film business, always making the wrong choices.
And back to routine. In March, I had a resting heart rate in the low 100s, my A1C was 11, which is blood sugar levels so terrible I was constantly sick, missing work, sleeping all the time trying to recover, peeing ten times a day, I had nausea, migraines, and ear infections, and my high blood sugar ripped the hell out of my eyes. Three months later I had a resting pulse rate in the 60s, A1C of 5.9 , and I stopped being sick.
Of course then the summer hit, and my routine has become lost again. I eat late, and bad, and too much, taking my pills becomes a struggle, where once I had it down cold. School is on the horizon for my daughters again. So that will help with the routine. Establish a new one, because the school plans are slightly different this year. There is something else about routine that I learned, as a father, a morning routine is absolutely essential. Night routines, they can vary a bit, but in the morning we had to catch the bus at a certain time (and we missed only one, and that was to take Sadie to the doctor one morning.) So catching the bus at a certain time means out the door at a certain time, which means dressed and etc. etc. etc. So it is get the girls up by a certain time, and smooth sailing. Wake them up 5 minutes later, disaster, and rushing and stress.
For me, by myself, if I over sleep, not really an issue, I adapt, change, adjust. However after the first year of being by myself and having to get my kids off to school in the morning when they were with me I learned a few things.
1. I can't wait until I can send them with sandwiches or they start eating the school lunch. They always want soup, or something hot, which means I can't make their lunch the night before, as I can with mine, that eats into my time.
2. I need to be dressed for work before I wake them up, or I'm going to be rushing to get dressed.
3. There are 5 things my children can handle in the morning for a stress free morning, Get up, eat breakfast, get dressed, brush teeth and hair, put on shoes. Add ANYTHING else and problems. So clothes must be picked out the night before. Any paperwork signed the night before, because there is a schedule, we have to meet. I started to realize, add a sixth item to the morning, and it became rocky and stressful. Keep it to those 5 things, and smooth sailing.
I hate routine, well at least I used to. I'm not a slave to it now, we can vary it, at night or during the day. Plans can become flexible, hey if we are out having fun, no reason to leave one place just to go somewhere else because that's the schedule. When we have time, the schedule can change, but when we don'†, like mornings getting to school. Varying the routine just plays havoc, so build a routine and don't change it. I'm not single anymore, so what I do affects others. I no longer have a partner; someone I help out when they need a hand, or someone to help me if I need a hand. So I'm alone here, and as a dad, in the morning a solid routine just makes all the difference.
As a diabetic, and as someone with ADHD, having a routine to follow may just save my life. For my eating habits, for my exercise, for taking my medicine. When I stop following the routine, it all goes out of whack, and it isn't good. So I start again tomorrow, Sunday, counting my calories, even though it might make more sense to wait until Monday, I start on Sunday, food journaling, I use the My fitness Pal app on my phone. And I start testing my blood sugar twice a day again, every day, and no recriminations. Testing the blood sugar is key for me, because it keeps me focused on my health, and even when I have great readings, in the 70s, once in a while there is a high one, and I have to think on what I am doing, and why that happened.
In case you don't know what the numbers mean, when you test your sugar on a daily basis the "Normal" score is 120 - above that, not good, below that is better. I'll go into detail on that in another post, because you can have problems if your sugar goes too low. The A1C number is different and is an average of your levels over the past three months, as opposed to the daily checking of your blood sugar.
As for ADHD, I've started keeping a timer on myself at work, how long it takes to do this task, or to do that one. I can identify my weaknesses, and when I am just letting the work get away from me, and when I need to stay focused and finish, because I can't spend unlimited time on one thing. I'm more used to something taking as long as it takes, but really I need it to take how long I plan on it taking.It doesn't always, but it is better to set a goal for how long it will take, rather then just let it take as long as it takes. It's made a difference just in the past three weeks since I started using the timer. My most productive month at this job yet.
Sorry, this post is a little meandering, but it is three in the morning, the only time I have to write for the next few days, and tomorrow, I can actually sleep late, nowhere to be with the kids until the late afternoon/evening. Sort of the end of summer, and the free form days.
Thanks for reading, please feel free to comment, share, subscribe and follow.
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